Day 56 - Getting Preggers
The other day I was talking to a good friend who was trying to get pregnant. She was telling me how frustrated and discouraged she felt about the whole process. She asked me if I could write something about it. I'm by no means an authority on the subject, but I do have my own experience to draw from and my own thoughts on the process...so here goes...
My whole teenage life it seemed like I was bombarded by messages about safe sex and pregnancy. I just remember those embarrassing and unpleasant conversations with my mom who basically to me that any kind of physical contact with a boy would result in immediate pregnancy.
When the hubby and I took the monumental decision to take the cap off and to start "trying" for a baby, I thought a couple of "tries" would do the trick. Right? Oh! But, how dismally wrong I was! Month after months, I would pee on that dreaded stick and only to see one line and not two. As you can imagine, I was beginning to feel frustrated and disillusioned. I tried to stay positive about the process, but I was beginning to worry and it put a strain on the entire "love making process." Things became very mechanical and based complicated math calculations, which projected my anticipated ovulation date. I felt like a capital FAILURE...
I was somewhat relieved when winter came, since the hubby would be on the road and it would give us a much needed break from the "trying." On the handful of occasions when we did see each other, we celebrated and the possibility of getting pregnant was far from our minds.
In March, he ended up coming home for a couple of days on a layover from Europe to Calgary. Two weeks later, I came down with the flu. Or, what I thought was the flu. Being pregnant never crossed my mind. But, when the feeling of nausea didn't go away, I was suspicious and cautiously hopeful. I mean, if I calculated back, it wasn't possible. I wasn't even supposed to be ovulating at that time. And, we hadn't even "tried.”
Imagine my surprise when I pied on the dreaded stick and there appeared two bright blue lines. SUCCESS!
And, what was the key? Here is what I have concluded about the whole process of "getting pregnant."
1. You get pregnant when you don't try.
2. You don't get pregnant when you do try.
I know! It's totally confusing. But, the truth is. Perhaps that for some women getting pregnant (or not getting pregnant) is a state of mind. If you ask my hippy in me - being stressed and mechanical about the process is counterintuitive to the whole naturalness of getting pregnant.
I'm not a doctor. This is just my opinion. And, I recognize that some women do face legitimate fertility problems. But, for those who are like me - women who do not have any apparent problem with their "pipes," but for whom getting pregnant is a bit more of a challenge. Well, my advice to you is to just relax, lie back, and enjoy the ride. :-)